Long story, but I’m something like a ‘humanist celebrant’ at a wedding this weekend. They don’t want to bother God, but they do want to mark their connection with friends, and they asked me to conduct the festivities. I’m humbled. But I’ve just seen the programme, and the first bit says, ‘James welcomes everyone and says something about the importance of friends and family and the partnership the couple has, general remarks about marriage, etc’. I’m all in favour of freedom, but this is a very loose brief indeed. I’ve been told not to swear, but that’s my only steer. Help!
Now’s your chance to provide a counter-example to Jeremy’s discovery that atheists aren’t much good at helping from a distance. Any thoughts or leads or views? Any pointers to philosophers on love and marriage — my copy of the Symposium will be examined in a moment. What would you say? What should be said, what matters most, when two people who aren’t believers want to have a serious connection marked with family and friends?